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Adolescence problems

Which is the problem?

 

Below a list of possible problems that teenagers usually show:

 

  • Watch too much TV
  • Goes late to bed and wakes up late
  • Dresses carelessly
  • Argues with his/her brothers and sisters
  • Gets angry when he/she doesn’t get what he wants
  • The bedroom is untidy
  • Doesn’t take care of his/her things, he/she loses them
  • Not involved in family life
  • Wants to be on his/her own
  • Dates undesirable friends
  • You never know where he/she is, he/she doesn’t inform you
  • Smokes or even takes drugs
  • Uses clothes to provoke
  • His/her hair style is odd
  • Wears dirty or broken clothes
  • He/she is bad at school
  • Doesn’t do the homework nor studies
  • Spends the day eating
  • Has a vulgar and rude language
  • Insults his/her parents, brothers and sisters
  • Lies to do what he/she wants
  • Never helps at home
  • Doesn’t fulfil orders
  • Uses other people’s things without permission
  • Is irritable and aggressive
  • Threatens to leave the house
  • Takes the car without permission
  • Never makes plans with the family
  • Always wants to be alone
  • Demands too much money
  • Threatens physically

If several of these thing usually happen:

  • Choose one of them
  • Identify the opposite situation you want
  • Design several appropriate actions for this objective
  • Pray and talk to your teenager clearly and lovingly
  • Try again
  • Be firm

 

Psychological characteristics of adolescents

 The adolescence stage implies a series of changes in the psychological structure of the individual, which can be summarized as follows:

  1. Discovery of one’s own identity. The teenager intuits and discovers that «he» is «he», not another. Different from anyone else.
  2. Ambivalence between childhood and maturity. He discovers himself with adult traits and child traits.
  3. Insecurity towards the ambiguous reality. As a result of the above, the teenager shows a great insecurity in himself.
  4. To disguise insecurity he needs to protect himself, for which he uses behavioral masks that prevent others from realizing reality. This is an unconscious mechanism.
  5. Aggressiveness, as a mask, to protect his lack of security
  6. Rebellion, another mask. Every teenager has a different way of being aggressive. Sometimes with verbal or behavioral violence and others in the form of self-absorption.
  7. Need to attract attention. Narcissism. As a manifestation of the discovery of their own reality. Wants to tell everyone «This is me.»
  8. The protection of the group. Group identity. The group provides shelter for personal insecurity and gives strength towards the threat of adults.
  9. Know the boundaries. Most adolescent behaviors respond to a reason: to know the limits of adults, so they test them doing crazy things.

 

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