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Ideas for a booklet on «Family Communication»
Engaged listening from parent to siblings:
.Look at the eyes of the sibling speaker
.Keep silent and nod the head assertive while
.Make some short remarks about the subject
during a pause
.Start some short questions: what do you think about?
.Ask all the others members of the family make
a statement about
.Leave your turn for the last one, and make a
.Close the subject with an ethic message
Engaged listening from adolescent to parents :
.Look at your parent´s eyes while speaking
.Nod the head as an assertive way to indicate
.Make some question about the conversation:
how do you know?
.Ask about their experience: when you were as
old as me now, how did you feel?
Parents need to remember Dr Albert Mehrabian investigation: the non verbal components in family communication, is quite important. He divided in percentages the impact from a message: 7% is verbal ,just for information; 38% is vocal, like tone, touch and 55% is signals and gestures.
In a talk face to face the verbal component is
no more than a 35%, the rest a 65% is
just personal attitudes and emotions
Like a resume partners agree some:
Always tell the truth
Work hard your listening attitude
Hugs are nutritious as well
Keep your promises
Lough out loud when your at home
Say frequently “I love you”
Say please and thanks to every small help
Start talking about your own emotions before
Enjoy your family cooking and dinner time
One conclusion after
having study and compare our DIR questionnaires was that many “European
parents” did not know how to punish fairly.
So Fundación Belén (FB)
as Coordinator asked partners to think about that point. Here are some of the
consensus DIR prepositions:
Change punishment for appraisal. Adolescents who are properly appraised by their parents they feel motivated, enlightened, aware of their strengths and weaknesses and, more importantly, they want to improve themselves.
What is the purpose of
appraisal? To improve performance
What is the benefit to siblings of an effective parent´s appraisal? Improve their own character
What is a parent’s
responsibility as an appraiser? Learn and be honest
It is through communication that families are defined and members learn how to organize meanings. Families are formed, maintained, and dissolved through the use of communication
The family dinner table is one of our most reliable daily opportunities to get a “temperature check” on our kids. It is a perfect chance to check in on whether kids are overwhelmed or anxious, and to find out if something is worrying them.
Family dinner also gives parents a place to teach lessons and reinforce skills and ideals for their kids. Just by being together and combining food, fun and conversation, you can help kids develop character traits like resilience, empathy and courage
Model caring for others. Researchers have found that kids whose parents expect them to help those in need, are more likely to show courage in a variety of situations.
Try new foods. It may seem like a small thing, but taking tiny risks — like trying new foods — can help kids feel braver and more confident about stepping outside their comfort zones
If you feel you absolutely must follow up about anything you hear at table, choose a time later. Away from the dinner table, and try an opening line like “Do you want any help with that homework situation?” or “I was wondering if you might be comfortable sharing more about that problem..”
The more kids feel they can trust you to hear about their missteps without a negative response, the more relaxed and open they’ll become about communicating with you in the future
Put kids in charge of planning. Give everyone a job. Every member of the family can pitch in to make mealtimes a success! Even toddlers can fold napkins and carry them to the table; preschoolers can wash produce, stir ingredients and set out unbreakable dishware; elementary kids can help prepare simple dishes, pour drinks and clear the table; and so on.
6. Talk about courage and values. One great way to get kids thinking about how
courage shows up in their own lives is to share your own stories
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